Planning Tips | Including Others Outside of Your Wedding Party


It can be difficult to add all of the people important to you to your wedding party, and once you’ve come to a decision there are always people left that hold a special place in your heart but not yet in your wedding. Here are some other ways you can ask those special people to be a part of your wedding day!*

1 | Give a Reading


Is there a poem, song, or section of a book that means something special to you and your fiancé that you would like to have as part of your ceremony? Have one of your close friends or family members who aren’t part of your bridal party give the reading at your wedding! If they’re a talented writer, have them write something to read during the ceremony that could hold even more emotional meaning.

2 | Play a Song


Some of your close friends or family may be gifted with musical capabilities. Have them sing or play a song during your wedding! Whether it’s when you walk down the aisle or during a portion of your ceremony that doesn’t necessarily involve speaking (unity candles, hand fasting, ring warming, etc.), having a friend give the gift of music during your ceremony can be extremely special.

3 | Give Advice during the Ceremony

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Do you have married friends who you want to be part of your ceremony? Or maybe you want to include your parents or other family members in a way more suited to them. Have them stand up during your ceremony and offer a small piece of advice to the two of you that you can carry with you as you begin your marriage.

4 | Match the Wedding Colors


Many friends will try to avoid matching your wedding colors so as not to be confused with people in your wedding. To make sure that your friends know they hold a special place in your wedding day, ask them to match your wedding colors! If there’s an overall color scheme, ask them to match it or choose a specific color that you would like them to wear to show their importance to you!

5 | Wear a Symbol of Your Relationship


Yes, it would be great to include all of your sorority sisters or fraternity brothers and other school friends in your wedding. But having a bridal party of 20 or more girls and guys could be a bit overwhelming for some couples. For these close friends who aren’t in your bridal party, ask them to wear a symbol of their relationship with you instead!


For your school friends, have them wear their class rings! There are so many cute photo opportunities with them all showing off their class rings while you showcase your wedding ring that will make great photos for them to share after the wedding.

Sorority pins, colors, flowers, or jewels are simple, yet meaningful ways to have your sisters recognized for their special meaning to you! You can even ask some of your sisters if you can use their pins for your bouquet as your “something borrowed”! And don’t forget about the guys! Fraternity badges and songs are also a wonderful way to welcome the new bride into their “brotherhood”.

6 | Ring Warming


A trend popping up in recent years is having a ring warming during your ceremony. While many couples prefer to have all of the guest take part in the ring warming ceremony, having a few close friends seated near the front who take part in “warming” the rings will make the moment meaningful as well as take up less time.

7 | Ushers

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Asking someone to be an usher and escort guests to their seat is a great way to include males (especially younger ones) in your wedding! This can also take some pressure off of the groomsmen so that they can stay by the grooms’ side for the pre-wedding moments. But ushers don’t have to only be male. Female ushers are great too!

8 | Program and Guestbook Attendants

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To ensure that everyone gets a program, have a couple of your more outgoing friends hand out programs to your guests as they arrive. You can also ask some friends to be in charge of the guest book, making sure that everyone signs so you can you look through your guestbook for years to come.

No matter which route you choose to go, any of these options are special ways to make sure that you include those closest to you in your perfect day.*

*Be considerate of your friends’ feelings if you’re thinking of asking them to take part in a way that could be seen as “working” your event. Being a guest at your wedding is an honor in itself.

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